How
often have we found that life hasn't been fair to us? We find it extremely
stressful interacting and transacting with people around us. The situations and
circumstances that we are left to deal with are the most difficult ones. We
feel trapped in this never ending cycle of agony, and don't see a way
out of this misery! With each and every new challenge that we face, we start to
despise ourselves. At the same time, we try finding fault with people
around us - someone on this earth is responsible for each and every issue in
our life!
Our
mind has been conditioned to work based on our past experiences. It is
always backward/past focused, and is seldom optimistic and future friendly. It
takes into account all our social and cultural upbringing factors, the situations
we have had in the past - especially the negative ones. It then massages all
these experiences along with our emotions and fears, to project the future
- a future that rarely becomes a reality. There is a constant chatter in our
head - we feel a false sense of satisfaction at simulated situations, we
prepare ourselves for verbal attacks at the people who we think manipulates
us. Finally, we feel frustrated that all our mental preparations were in vain,
as the anticipated situation itself didn't materialize! At the end, we are
totally drained out of energy, and all what we need is some rest. Instead of
letting our mind wander on its own, we need to start taking back the
control. It is indeed our birth-right!
Be
aware of our thoughts, or in other words, Be
Mindful. Whenever you catch yourself going through a never ending loop of
if’s and but’s, put an immediate stop to it. If this is a reaction to an act or
a word from anyone you know, just ask yourself – “So, What? Why should I get
affected? I will decide my state of happiness. I will not allow anyone else to
decide how I should feel”. If you are worrying about a possible negative
situation about to arise in your life, take a deep breath, relax completely
while you breathe out and tell yourself – “I am confident that only positive
things will happen in my life. I will be able to take the best decision when
the need arises. I will not worry about it now, when I don’t even know if that
situation will arise”.
If we
are in a situation where we feel stuck, take a deep breath and relax. Allow the
supreme power to take the best possible course of action and get you the most
perfect solution. Challenges in life are
always learning opportunities, which help us to grow. They help us to
discover our inner power, which we were never aware of till now. Few years from
now, we will reflect back on this situation and appreciate how it helped us to
become a stronger person. Never quit, just understand that we are facing this
challenge because we have the strength and capability to overcome it. This situation
will definitely pass soon.
Whenever
we feel bad about ourselves, or start worrying in self-pity, just remember -
"I am a perfect creation of God" - yes, even with all the
imperfections that we may be aware of. And no one can look
down upon us. Identify a daily routine, preferably during the start of
your day, when you can get into a relaxed state of connecting with your soul /
higher consciousness, and repeat the magical words – “I am Perfect”. Grab your perfect moments – as many as
possible during the day. This can be part of something you do every day, so
that you don’t miss it even a single day. The perfect moment for me comes when
I take the sip from the glass of warm milk/coffee I drink every morning. What
is yours?
Just
like the physical body needing food to remain healthy, the mind also needs
healthy food, in the form of positive thoughts. There are numerous
Inspirational and Motivational books out there, available either online, or in
the local stores. Make it a habit to have such a book with you always, as
a constant companion in your daily life. Reading such books during your
free time keeps the mind occupied. Books are the best way to steer your life in
a particular direction.
When
we use the word "I", we usually refer to our mind or our body. Do we
realize that ‘I’ is not our mind? It is not even our body that we see in
the mirror. ‘I’, in fact, is the Soul, which is residing in our body,
and is the master of both our mind and our body. Our existence on this
earth is purely for the evolution of the Soul. Let us consciously put an end to
the path of sufferings, and get busy in the experiences we can gain out of
life. Let us not blame ‘fate’ for every issue in our life – let us exercise our
Choice!
Very nice thoughts ...practically applicable....nice work Jiby sir 🙂🙂
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